Like everything when it comes to you, it’s personal. How I define “Very Well” may be way different to you.
A simple example would be if I was to say Very Well meant earning a million dollars a year, many people would say that’s rubbish … for them. (and that is not what I want either)
But if we eliminate looking at “things” (items, possessions and quantity) perhaps we can agree on what Very Well might look like in general.
(If you need a life of excess then this series of posts may not be for you.)
Defining “Very Well”
I define Very Well in a few ways. The best way to term any measure is in the positive. Look for the way you want your life to be rather than avoiding things you don’t want.
For example, looking at finances, rather than having a goal or picture of:
- I don’t want to live pay check to pay check
It may be be more:
- I have enough money to pay all my bills and keep some for saving
So for me, living Very Well is having enough to cover my responsibilities and have a little left over.
But it’s not always about having more and/or better things.
We own a great car at the moment but I have this perverse measure that I will be doing “very well” when you see me driving some old heap (I said it was perverse). And I don’t mean a collector’s 1932 Rolls Royce, I mean a “heap that runs”.
Very Well also applies to different parts of our lives. My finances might be in poor shape but my fitness and health might be considered “Very Well”.
Have a look at the Key Areas in your life that are important to you. I have listed seven below. Use these or discover your own.
- Wife/Spouse
- Children
- Friends
- Finances
- Investments
- Health and wellness
- Work/profession
If I can answer the question “How are you doing?” with “Very well!” when asked about these areas, then, within my world, I’m doing okay!
(Ask me about my fitness tomorrow after a 14k run I signed up for! )
A Caution and two VIPs (Very Important Points!)
Okay this is important. What is being measured is important but we need to be accountable (hence the network and fan club) but there is another very important point to be made here. Who are we doing this for?
Caution - If you are living very well for others then your measures are going to be defined by others. And that just isn’t going to work. The measures must be set by you … for you. Not to be selfish and self absorbed (we’ll talk about that later) but simply so you can enjoy life and as a result others will benefit. As I said there will be more on that later (as in another post).
Two Very Important Points we need to finish on today:
VIP1 – the question (how are you doing in an area) should be asked often!
VIP2 – the “asker” should be you … asking yourself and set against the picture you want in that area.
